But Does Your Voice Believe You?
But Does Your Voice Believe You?
We develop different voices for different rooms — then wonder why none of them feel quite right.
Over time, we adapt to fit situations. But those adaptations don't always fit who we are now.
This isn't about "fixing" your voice. It's about reclaiming one that actually fits you.
Your Voice Says More Than Your Words
Most people think of the voice as a delivery system for ideas.
But it's sneakier than that. It broadcasts what you believe about yourself, what you fear, what you want, and how much space you think you're allowed to take up.
You might not notice what your voice is revealing — until you start listening.
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The throat tightening before you push back.
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Your pitch dropping when you state your job title.
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The slight upward lilt at the end of a sentence when you're making a point, not asking a question.
Those "tiny tells" can make your message smaller than you are. Even if you have the best idea in the room.
When a Voice Shrinks
Over years, people adapt their voices to stay safe, polite, or professional. Sometimes they've been told they're "too much" or "not enough." Sometimes they've been overlooked in meetings despite having the sharpest insight.
The issue usually isn't skill — it's habit. Habits shaped by situations you've outgrown.
And when those habits soften, the voice that emerges is often stronger, more compelling, and more unmistakably yours.
Two Real Stories
Sarah, a banker at a major NYC firm, often watched colleagues repeat her ideas and get the credit. In tense meetings, she'd hold her breath without realizing it. When she finally spoke, her voice was thin and rushed — like she was asking permission instead of leading. Once she learned to breathe steadily, her voice became grounded and resonant. People started tuning in.
Rochelle grew up where being "quiet" and "polite" was the expectation. As a project manager, she found her voice had no room to resonate in her body. By learning to physically take up space — shoulders back, grounded stance — her voice became stronger and richer. That physical shift changed how others saw her leadership, and how she saw herself.
What Changes When the Voice Fits
At first, the change is subtle. Then it's not.
You notice people actually listening.
You speak up in situations you used to avoid.
You stop feeling wrung out after conversations.
You stop replaying what you "should have said."
You trust your own voice. And others do, too.
The Work
True voice work lives in the body as much as the mouth.
It's breath support, vocal placement, and physical presence — paired with rewriting the quiet stories you've told yourself about taking up space.
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Identify the moments when your voice changes — defending an idea, stating your credentials, disagreeing with someone senior.
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Work on the physical foundations that keep your voice clear and strong.
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Practice speaking from expertise, not from apology.
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Unlearn habits that undercut your authority before you finish your first sentence.
The goal isn't to sound like someone else. It's to sound like yourself — at your most confident and clear.
Let's Talk
If your voice feels like it's battling you, it's time to change the script.
In 15 minutes, I can help you spot one habit holding you back — and one way to shift it right away.
Your voice isn't broken. It's just been adapted for situations you've outgrown.
Now it's time to shape it into something stronger — something that actually fits.